About Stacey Joseph Harris

Mary's Daughter. Girlie Girl. Worship Leader. Author. Radio Personality. Songwriter. Mentor. Sister. Friend. Pink. AKA. Curvy and Classy. Frequent Flyer. Coffee Drinker. Music Junkie. Teacher. Aunt. Sensitive and Sarcastic. Happy. Dreamer. Visionary. Administrator. Loving. Helpful.

Becoming Resilient

Ok, let’s be honest here. Life isn’t always a bed of roses or 65 degrees and sunny. Sometimes there are occasional relationship thorns and decisions covered by overcasts and clouds. Giving in to the pressure is easier than we are willing to admit at times. So, how do you bounce back when you feel like each day keeps knocking the wind out of you? Well, can we first acknowledge that if you recall another day rolling around you didn’t go without wind for long? Yeah, that’s the power of a resilient mind. A mind that bounces back and refuses to stay down for long.

Resilient people have a different perspective about things. You know the friend you’ve labeled as Ms. Optimistic. She sees the good in everything. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Life is always showing in her favorite color. Well, perhaps she’s not just optimistic. She’s resilient. Over the years, I’ve experienced very hard times and times when it seemed like I was soaring. I had to learn to be resilient in both seasons. Resilience says that this doesn’t have to be the end. I know there’s a beginning underneath these circumstances. There’s a much bigger transaction taking place. I shouldn’t settle for what’s whirling around on the surface.

Resilient people train their thoughts to seek alternatives. In Project Passion Mentoring Institute, one month is centered on uncovering the counterproductive thoughts that hinder growth. We have control over our thoughts.  Our brains are trainable. We can teach our brain to seek alternatives by evaluating the thoughts that enter our mind and deciding which thoughts get to stay. In the good times, I’ve had to bounce back from the cynical thought that “something bad may come along and spoil this moment.” In the not so good times, I’ve had to bounce back from the sneaky thought that “this season is never going to end”. I had to replace each of those thoughts with truth. For example, if something good is happening in my life, I should choose to be fully engaged and present in the moment. It won’t be the last time I’ll experience that goodness, but I could miss out on it right now by giving attention to something that has NOT happened. When it comes to your thoughts, start by asking yourself two questions: 1) Is this true? 2) Is this thought helping me? Then you need to replace the thought with a true and helpful thought.

Resilient people embrace change. It’s easier to embrace change when you expect it. Life simply doesn’t happen in a straight line. There are often detours, rerouting, U-turns and new paths altogether. You should expect it! You should expect that sometimes the only way that you can experience growth in your life is when things start to change. The change increases your capacity. It stretches you and ultimately positions you to experience more than you ever could have if things would have stayed the same.

Resilient people have options. When one door closes, resilient people believe wholeheartedly that they will be turning the knob of another door soon enough. They don’t expect things to happen one way. Their approach to life involves problem solving, reasoning, earnest expectation, compromise and opportunity. So, yes 2 + 2 = 4
but 8 – 4 = 4 and so does 36/9. There are many ways to get there, they just need to look for the options.

Becoming resilient is the antidote for mediocre living. You can bounce back. Get up from there…I hear you breathing!

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Stacey Joseph Harris

 

 

Some kinda’ love….

Most of us are enamored with the idea of love. The windows of our soul give way to the texture and feel of a new love. Our minds and hearts adjust to the ups and downs of love. We make concessions for the time that it takes for love to germinate in our hearts. We simply want to experience it and give it away. I believe that our hearts were uniquely designed by God to share. We are love children and we were made to love. It’s woven into the fiber of our being. It’s smeared across our ideals and thoughts. It is the compass that guides us along the streets of our journey where we find ourselves parked.

I believe that within each of us lies a “God spot”. It’s a place within our spirit that needs to express a deep and genuine love to God. And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. Mark 12:30 It’s the depth of our souls that must bear everything, with all sincerity, to the one that loved us first. Worship is the ultimate expression of love. I’m not regulating it to the first 30 minutes of service or the song that moves you to tears. It travels intentionally beyond music or a church setting. It finds its way into your thoughts throughout the day. It appears during a moment when you realize that you’re grateful for the grace that has carried you through the seasons of your life. It shows up while you parent your children and honor your spouses.

God’s amazing love toward us is beyond comprehension at times. For many of us our understanding is thwarted by the many relationships that left us wanting and searching. It takes a level of trust to abandon all and trust God completely. To believe with all of your heart that He won’t hurt or leave you like the others. Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. Hebrews 13:5. He can be trusted with your heart and your secrets. It’s ok to love God with all that you have, and be confident while you’re sharing that He loves you more. Your worship brings Him pleasure and the personal benefits that you’ll receive while offering your love to Him are endless. So, let your hair down. Expose your heart. Be vulnerable. Be honest. Worship God with no restraints. Pour your love on Him daily and experience the purity of His love for you.  Give him your worship and He will give you Himself…..

 

 

About Me Stacey

Stacey Joseph Harris