New Year. New you. Ummm maybe not!

The Christmas holidays have come and gone and most of us are scurrying around trying to brace ourselves for the new year. I don’t know, there’s something about entering a new year that makes everyone attempt to be more focused, more intentional about planning, and more anxious about their lives. I’m afraid that the “New Year. New You” slogans offer a false sense of hope and expected progress.

Can I just be honest with you? The new year slogans don’t sustain or guarantee growth. You do. Your work. Your efforts. {Click to Tweet} You must commit to the process. The beginning of the journey to change starts when you decide that you want more and you’re willing to do the work to get there. Why shouldn’t it start now? Waiting until December 31, 2015 at 11:59 p.m. to choose is silly when you think about it. There’s no better time than the present, and your life has been waiting on you to choose better. So, choose it right now. Say, yes to your life.

Saying yes to your life, will require that you say no to the things that are not giving you what you REALLY want.

It includes:
1) Questions to help you identify what you’ve been saying yes to
2) Tips to narrow your focus so that you can start saying yes to what you really want
3) Tips to help you uncover why you have a hard time saying “NO”…and much more

I want you to experience more than you ever have. I want you to have the life you deserve. I know that you want the same thing. Get a jumpstart on the new year. Your new year can start today.

There are several ways to get started now:

You can schedule a one-on-one coaching session with me and we can come up with a strategy to get you moving in the direction that YOU desire. There are 30 minute,
1-hour and monthly sessions available.

You can enroll in Project Passion Mentoring Institute. Project Passion Mentoring Institute provides a growth experience that challenges, encourages and inspires women to embrace the risk of change with faith and courage. The program attracts brilliant women with a genuine desire to experience more and the tenacity to work for it. The program duration is 3 months.

You can sign up for my FREE 5-day Email Course – How to get UNSTUCK. You’d be surprised how many people feel stuck in their lives, in their relationships, and on their jobs. They are spinning their wheels, seemingly busy, but going NOWHERE fast! Sign up for my FREE 5-day email course. You’ll receive my coaching lessons in your inbox each day for five days.  I’ll help you to take the necessary steps to get UNSTUCK! You can be brave and live with passion. Forward motion is possible.

I know that you want more. Don’t wait until December 31st to start. Today is the day.

Your friend,

About Me Stacey

Stacey Joseph Harris

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Give and give some more.

When I was a little girl, I can recall giving my kindergarten teacher a gift. I made it. It included a handwritten letter inside a box. At five years old, I believed that my teacher was the smartest person on the planet. She knew more than me and my mom. Looking back, I’m not surprised that I became a teacher, because I’ve been fascinated with these super humans for a long time now. Auntie Mommie told me later on that my teacher told her that my gifts always moved her to tears. She couldn’t believe that I was so thoughtful at five.

In all fairness, my aunt who raised me, was the perfect picture of generosity. She was always giving to others in some way. She remember birthdays and they were always accompanied by a card and your favorite thing. Her generosity made you feel special, loved and remembered. That’s powerful.

Over the years, I’ve taken on some of her traits. I remember; and I want the people closest to me to know that they are always on my mind and in my heart. So, I give. 🙂

Giving always gives back to you. While you may gift a cool coffee mug to a coworker, because you noticed that she dropped her favorite mug in the break room the day before, you may not get a coffee mug back as a thank you. But, you may experience the warmth of her smile and sincere appreciation to you because you thought to give her an unexpected gift. You may actually receive MORE from the experience than the recipient. This has happened to me so many times. It makes giving so special.

Giving replaces selfishness. It’s so easy to be consumed with your life, your needs and your desires. When you choose to give to others, suddenly your “stuff” takes a back seat to your desire to bring goodness to another person. It’s selfless not self serving. Each gift builds relationship equity and creates a gateway for love in its purest form to flow to others and back to you.

Giving doesn’t have to include money. Yes, I believe that generally we are all okay pocketing a little more cash or receiving tangible gifts, but the intangibles in many ways become the most valuable. For example, lending your ear and your time to a friend who needs to vent and a safe place to share is a gift. Offering to babysit for a single mom on a Saturday is a gift. Giving encouragement and mentoring to a high school student is a gift. There are so many ways that you can give to others. This list can go on for days.

Generosity awakens your heart to its true purpose. We were made to love and be loved. We were made to give. 

This season and beyond, open up your life to those around you. Give them the best of you….give and give some more.

Your friend,

About Me Stacey

Stacey Joseph Harris

Becoming Resilient

Ok, let’s be honest here. Life isn’t always a bed of roses or 65 degrees and sunny. Sometimes there are occasional relationship thorns and decisions covered by overcasts and clouds. Giving in to the pressure is easier than we are willing to admit at times. So, how do you bounce back when you feel like each day keeps knocking the wind out of you? Well, can we first acknowledge that if you recall another day rolling around you didn’t go without wind for long? Yeah, that’s the power of a resilient mind. A mind that bounces back and refuses to stay down for long.

Resilient people have a different perspective about things. You know the friend you’ve labeled as Ms. Optimistic. She sees the good in everything. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Life is always showing in her favorite color. Well, perhaps she’s not just optimistic. She’s resilient. Over the years, I’ve experienced very hard times and times when it seemed like I was soaring. I had to learn to be resilient in both seasons. Resilience says that this doesn’t have to be the end. I know there’s a beginning underneath these circumstances. There’s a much bigger transaction taking place. I shouldn’t settle for what’s whirling around on the surface.

Resilient people train their thoughts to seek alternatives. In Project Passion Mentoring Institute, one month is centered on uncovering the counterproductive thoughts that hinder growth. We have control over our thoughts.  Our brains are trainable. We can teach our brain to seek alternatives by evaluating the thoughts that enter our mind and deciding which thoughts get to stay. In the good times, I’ve had to bounce back from the cynical thought that “something bad may come along and spoil this moment.” In the not so good times, I’ve had to bounce back from the sneaky thought that “this season is never going to end”. I had to replace each of those thoughts with truth. For example, if something good is happening in my life, I should choose to be fully engaged and present in the moment. It won’t be the last time I’ll experience that goodness, but I could miss out on it right now by giving attention to something that has NOT happened. When it comes to your thoughts, start by asking yourself two questions: 1) Is this true? 2) Is this thought helping me? Then you need to replace the thought with a true and helpful thought.

Resilient people embrace change. It’s easier to embrace change when you expect it. Life simply doesn’t happen in a straight line. There are often detours, rerouting, U-turns and new paths altogether. You should expect it! You should expect that sometimes the only way that you can experience growth in your life is when things start to change. The change increases your capacity. It stretches you and ultimately positions you to experience more than you ever could have if things would have stayed the same.

Resilient people have options. When one door closes, resilient people believe wholeheartedly that they will be turning the knob of another door soon enough. They don’t expect things to happen one way. Their approach to life involves problem solving, reasoning, earnest expectation, compromise and opportunity. So, yes 2 + 2 = 4
but 8 – 4 = 4 and so does 36/9. There are many ways to get there, they just need to look for the options.

Becoming resilient is the antidote for mediocre living. You can bounce back. Get up from there…I hear you breathing!

About Me Stacey

Stacey Joseph Harris

 

 

Some kinda’ love….

Most of us are enamored with the idea of love. The windows of our soul give way to the texture and feel of a new love. Our minds and hearts adjust to the ups and downs of love. We make concessions for the time that it takes for love to germinate in our hearts. We simply want to experience it and give it away. I believe that our hearts were uniquely designed by God to share. We are love children and we were made to love. It’s woven into the fiber of our being. It’s smeared across our ideals and thoughts. It is the compass that guides us along the streets of our journey where we find ourselves parked.

I believe that within each of us lies a “God spot”. It’s a place within our spirit that needs to express a deep and genuine love to God. And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. Mark 12:30 It’s the depth of our souls that must bear everything, with all sincerity, to the one that loved us first. Worship is the ultimate expression of love. I’m not regulating it to the first 30 minutes of service or the song that moves you to tears. It travels intentionally beyond music or a church setting. It finds its way into your thoughts throughout the day. It appears during a moment when you realize that you’re grateful for the grace that has carried you through the seasons of your life. It shows up while you parent your children and honor your spouses.

God’s amazing love toward us is beyond comprehension at times. For many of us our understanding is thwarted by the many relationships that left us wanting and searching. It takes a level of trust to abandon all and trust God completely. To believe with all of your heart that He won’t hurt or leave you like the others. Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. Hebrews 13:5. He can be trusted with your heart and your secrets. It’s ok to love God with all that you have, and be confident while you’re sharing that He loves you more. Your worship brings Him pleasure and the personal benefits that you’ll receive while offering your love to Him are endless. So, let your hair down. Expose your heart. Be vulnerable. Be honest. Worship God with no restraints. Pour your love on Him daily and experience the purity of His love for you.  Give him your worship and He will give you Himself…..

 

 

About Me Stacey

Stacey Joseph Harris